Loved Calle's perspective, such an interesting exchange between the two of you! I do agree that friends are the greatest loves of our lives, I know mine are. And there is something so bittersweet about knowing that we are a product of everything we have ever loved, touched and shaped by all these different people even when they are no longer in our lives. Really loving this column, thank you for sharing <3
1. Welcome to the curly hair gang! Only brush your hair when it's wet and find a good bonnet or silk scarf for sleeping. You'll feel silly but it's worth it.
2. I love Calle. That heartbreak is my least favorite. It's the deep ache of a eternal "what if" that my heart refuses to accept. That heartache is the kind that permanently changed me as a person because I refuse to experience it again. I'll be rejected a thousand times before I let it happen again.
3. You have so much love and I'm glad to see it. While you're having your heartbreak project you're also having a summer of love. Bouncing from friend to friend, spending your precious time with them. Filling each other's hearts with platonic love. It's so sweet.
thank you for your kind words aurora <33 (and the curly hair tips! god knows i need it) and yes: will never be a "what if" person again – ill rather risk the emotional audacity! – and yes: heres to filling our hearts with wholesome platonic love
Always always ALWAYS enjoy your writing! I look forward to your letters like waiting for a Christmas gift on Christmas eve. This letter reminded me of something I heard the other day from someone older and wiser in my life. "Men play at love to get sex and women play at sex to get love." But if we weren’t selfish or manipulative, if we knew what real love was, if we were so filled with honest love it would just pour out of us into the next person with hardly any thought. Unfortunately, that’s not the case. Our human nature is selfish. We want what’s best for us, we are the first ones in our minds. To love someone else means we give up a part of ourselves to the other and that’s a difficult, vulnerable thing to do. My favorite book of all time on love is C.S. Lewis’s The Four Loves. Highly recommend!! Thank you Chloe for your lovely letters, they’re very inspiring and thought provoking. "Love is not giving someone what they deserve, love is giving someone what they need."
thank you so much grace <3 i really enjoyed reading your comment! and YES, sometimes i feel if we could just overflow with love and let it pour out onto every situation and person we could experience life so big!!! but alas, theres our head and past trauma. (& thank you for the book rec)
aaa this is so beautiful, once again! i presented my thesis last tuesday, the one i mentioned to you about my heartbreak, so this is all so poignant. it ended up being successful, even though my tutor told me it was a risk to switch topics so late in the process and to talk about love, a topic that so easily can fall into cliché. i wrote about phototherapy, photography as a way to heal, and talked about jo spence and her belief that "showing our wounds can lead to social liberation" - baldwin's quote fits that perfectly, and fits the immense relief i felt when i presented the thesis and all the jury members told me they'd related to my story. i thought i'd feel judged by them, for talking about heartbreak, but it was the exact opposite. i veered off track from my original interest but i found the beauty of creating something that's brazenly honest and genuinely connects with me and everyone else. that's how i feel about this newsletter. i get an old school feeling every time i read it, like the world and content creation is just a tiny bit more magical. thank you!!!
adri!!!!! what would my substack be without your comments??? SO MUCH MORE BORING. im so happy they liked your work! congratulations! wow <3 i truly believe that sharing our brazen honesty – like spencer and balwin were getting at – really leads to a special kind of liberation. (if there is a way to read your thesis, i would very much like to... the photographer within me is itching). & thank you for always sharing your wonderful and interesting thoughts with me <3 i always feel so honoured
awh eve, thank you!!! i really get such a lovely old-school vibe from this space. i think long form content is so important. you've even inspired me to start my own!! and yes of course you can read it! it's in spanish but i'm sure google translate wouldn't do a terrible job, and half of the photographic work is in english anyway. i can send it over dm! <3 <3
i adored this story. and i totally get what ur friend calle meant, about regretting not daring to do something. sometimes u gotta take a leap of faith !!
Loved Calle's perspective, such an interesting exchange between the two of you! I do agree that friends are the greatest loves of our lives, I know mine are. And there is something so bittersweet about knowing that we are a product of everything we have ever loved, touched and shaped by all these different people even when they are no longer in our lives. Really loving this column, thank you for sharing <3
thank you for your words <3 we really ARE the product of everything we have ever loved (!)
Gods, I have so much to say.
1. Welcome to the curly hair gang! Only brush your hair when it's wet and find a good bonnet or silk scarf for sleeping. You'll feel silly but it's worth it.
2. I love Calle. That heartbreak is my least favorite. It's the deep ache of a eternal "what if" that my heart refuses to accept. That heartache is the kind that permanently changed me as a person because I refuse to experience it again. I'll be rejected a thousand times before I let it happen again.
3. You have so much love and I'm glad to see it. While you're having your heartbreak project you're also having a summer of love. Bouncing from friend to friend, spending your precious time with them. Filling each other's hearts with platonic love. It's so sweet.
Thanks for sharing. 💕
thank you for your kind words aurora <33 (and the curly hair tips! god knows i need it) and yes: will never be a "what if" person again – ill rather risk the emotional audacity! – and yes: heres to filling our hearts with wholesome platonic love
You have such a beautiful and calm way of expressing yourself and your thoughts and I'm glad I could read your writing.
I really hope that your days are filled with colour and love and that everything goes well for you🧡🧡🤎
thank you <3333 i wish you colour and love as well <3
That's kind of you,thank you🧡
Always always ALWAYS enjoy your writing! I look forward to your letters like waiting for a Christmas gift on Christmas eve. This letter reminded me of something I heard the other day from someone older and wiser in my life. "Men play at love to get sex and women play at sex to get love." But if we weren’t selfish or manipulative, if we knew what real love was, if we were so filled with honest love it would just pour out of us into the next person with hardly any thought. Unfortunately, that’s not the case. Our human nature is selfish. We want what’s best for us, we are the first ones in our minds. To love someone else means we give up a part of ourselves to the other and that’s a difficult, vulnerable thing to do. My favorite book of all time on love is C.S. Lewis’s The Four Loves. Highly recommend!! Thank you Chloe for your lovely letters, they’re very inspiring and thought provoking. "Love is not giving someone what they deserve, love is giving someone what they need."
thank you so much grace <3 i really enjoyed reading your comment! and YES, sometimes i feel if we could just overflow with love and let it pour out onto every situation and person we could experience life so big!!! but alas, theres our head and past trauma. (& thank you for the book rec)
aaa this is so beautiful, once again! i presented my thesis last tuesday, the one i mentioned to you about my heartbreak, so this is all so poignant. it ended up being successful, even though my tutor told me it was a risk to switch topics so late in the process and to talk about love, a topic that so easily can fall into cliché. i wrote about phototherapy, photography as a way to heal, and talked about jo spence and her belief that "showing our wounds can lead to social liberation" - baldwin's quote fits that perfectly, and fits the immense relief i felt when i presented the thesis and all the jury members told me they'd related to my story. i thought i'd feel judged by them, for talking about heartbreak, but it was the exact opposite. i veered off track from my original interest but i found the beauty of creating something that's brazenly honest and genuinely connects with me and everyone else. that's how i feel about this newsletter. i get an old school feeling every time i read it, like the world and content creation is just a tiny bit more magical. thank you!!!
adri!!!!! what would my substack be without your comments??? SO MUCH MORE BORING. im so happy they liked your work! congratulations! wow <3 i truly believe that sharing our brazen honesty – like spencer and balwin were getting at – really leads to a special kind of liberation. (if there is a way to read your thesis, i would very much like to... the photographer within me is itching). & thank you for always sharing your wonderful and interesting thoughts with me <3 i always feel so honoured
awh eve, thank you!!! i really get such a lovely old-school vibe from this space. i think long form content is so important. you've even inspired me to start my own!! and yes of course you can read it! it's in spanish but i'm sure google translate wouldn't do a terrible job, and half of the photographic work is in english anyway. i can send it over dm! <3 <3
i adored this story. and i totally get what ur friend calle meant, about regretting not daring to do something. sometimes u gotta take a leap of faith !!
yes! kierkegaard knew what he was on about!!